So there is a Tumblr user who will go unnamed for their own safety that I’ve been an adopted mom to for a while. They live in a shitty situation with their parents and are a constant victim to all sorts of abuse with no easy way out. Also, please note that they are 20 so what I’m about to do is legal. However, being an adult doesn’t always make leaving any easier.
I consider this person to be like a daughter to me. A daughter of my heart if not my blood. You know how found families are. They are a core member of my friend group and over time they’ve revealed more and more details of the abuse they suffer to the group.
I finally reached my breaking point and with their consent, the whole group is now in rescue mode with me playing a central role.
First I need a new job that pays a living wage, which I’m looking for no matter what anyway. I’m about to graduate, this is the next step in my life. But with that living wage, I should be able to sort my finances and make it so I’m no longer dependent on my mother. This is key. I can’t initiate the plan if my mom is giving me a few hundred dollars a month to support my family. I don’t currently have a death wish.
Anyway with finances in a better position, and a tax return in hand to fund the trip, in early March I’m making the 12 hour drive to a state I won’t identify (actually my mom is driving me in her car because I’m a horrible driver and my own car is guaranteed to not survive this trip, bless its soul) we’re packing my found daughter up, and bringing her home with me. All while her parents are at work so we have no resistance. (A note will be left and the local police will be notified that this is a rescue and they are not missing, just leaving a bad situation.)
Once back in Ohio they will live with me as long as they need to get on their feet and establish their life as an adult, just like I will allow my other 3 kids. I don’t see a difference. It won’t be the most ideal living situation as quarters are cramped. But they’ve declared it much better than their current situation. So that’s something at least.
My friend group is working out the logistics of this plan. Everything from where I can rent a little cargo trailer and a trailer hitch, to making sure they can finish their current degree and move on to the next, to health insurance, to getting them in therapy the second we’re back in Ohio.
My immediate family is on board with this. Pat is a little more resigned than excited. But Pat understands who they married and how I am. My purpose in life is to rescue those in need with whatever power I have. That, and I’ve been talking for years about being done having kids, but wanting to foster older kids and give them a loving family once we’re financially stable and the kids are grown. This is about 10 years sooner than I had in mind, and it’s an adult we’re fostering. But hey. This is the path I’ve been led down.
Sammy is super excited to have a big “sister”. The boys are accepting. Lucas is hesitant but he’s autistic and is really hesitant with any strangers. He’ll be fine. He has 8 months to warm up to it. Most importantly, while I’m aware of his stranger danger tendencies, he’ll at no point be in any danger so trust will be built.
Mom is hesitant but also on board enough to drive me 12 hours and back to make this happen. You know how mom’s can/should be. Cautiously supportive.
So yeah, that’s what I’m up to these days when not studying.