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  1. Comment by Robin Ostema:

    My life has been one massive rollercoaster of broken relationships, abuse and self doubt.
    I live alone now and just learned I have BPD.
    I knew my relationships never worked.
    I am still wrapping my head around all of this. I feel like a failure to my kids and myself.
    I do not act out uncontrollably. I used to though.
    I’m getting help so that I can learn how to cope with this.

    • Comment by kmarrs:

      Robin,
      I feel for you, I really do. It’s a lot to take in. However, once you do, that is the first step to getting better.

      I strongly recommend DBT. Go through it as many times as it takes, or at least once or twice. Don’t be embarrassed about going through it multiple times, that’s normal. It isn’t a cure, but it is a big help. It’s is specially designed for those of us with BPD to teach us coping mechanisms. I can’t stress enough how helpful it really is.

      I understand that feeling of failure but please hear me say that you aren’t a failure. You’re just sick. Is someone with cancer a failure just because they have cancer? So maybe you have some behaviors you need to change. You’ll learn to change them and everything will work out. You just have to be willing to do the work. But I hear in this message a voice of strength that is willing to do what it takes. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have reached out.

      It’s hard. There is a long road ahead. You’ll take 2 steps forward, just to take a step backward. But next time you’ll take 3 or 4 steps forward. And next thing you know, you’re at recovery. You just have to be willing to keep walking. And I think you are.

      Reach out anytime. karenmarrs at gmail dot com. Introduce yourself in the email so I’m not confused. I’m easily confused. But I am here for you.

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