The Dates

All the necessary dates we’ve been missing for this move are in. Dad is out this coming Monday.  June 11, to be exact. We close June 29th.  We have to be 100% out of our current apartment July 4th. We were hoping to have the summer to move slowly but it isn’t going to happen […]

DBT Plans

Part of me wants to go through a full series of DBT.  Not because I’m in crisis mode, but because I think a skills refresher will help me cope with and respond to the boys’ behavior better.  Things remaining as they are could throw me into crisis mode.  Easily. Most of me knows that finding […]

It All Comes At A (High) Cost

I would argue that cost is gas money, while some might argue it’s my soul. Buddhism keeps popping up in my life.  I’ll read something and go, “Wow!  I could belive in and/or follow that!” I’ll take a silly quiz and it will tell me it’s the best suited religion.  The first highly noted incident […]

DBT Week 4 – Core Mindfulness

Taking Hold of the Mind: “How” Skills Non judgmentally See but don’t evaluate. Take a nonjudgmental stance. Just the facts. Focus on the “what” not the “good” or “bad”, the “terrible” or “wonderful”, the “should” or “should not”. Unglue your opinions from the facts, from the “who, what ,where and when”. Accept each moment, each […]

DBT Week 3 – Core Mindfulness

Types of Cognitice (Thinking) Distortions All or nothing thinhking – You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure. Overgeneralization – You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. Magnifying the negative – You exaggerate the importance of a negative […]