We are what we make of ourselves.  And our disease is what we present it to be. If you behave badly and use your mental illness as an excuse, you are helping to propel the stigma of mental illness forward.  If I only know one person with BPD and that person makes bad decision after […]


Being on the side of the well spouse is an option. Being on the side of the sick spouse is another option. But I defy anyone arguing the decision to say “Fuck that noise” and choosing the side of the children. Does this pertain to a specific family? Yes. Does it have to? No. This […]

How to Make Someone with BPD Happy

I am looking to do a series of guest posts under this topic. If you would like to chime in, please by all means chime in with your 2 cents via email. All that I ask is that you keep it respectful. Here is response #2 to this challenge! Author Bio – Audrey Porterman is […]

How to Make Someone with BPD Happy

I am looking to do a series of guest posts around this topic.  It is ALWAYS open to your interpretation as long as it’s respectful.  I can’t wait to hear what you have to say.  In the meantime, here is guest post #1 on How to Make Someone With BPD Happy!  And I think she […]

Bipolar vs Borderline

I read a blog post that I’ll link to in a minute. It links to these: But the blog post explains it best, and puts it into practice.

DBT Week 4 – Core Mindfulness

Taking Hold of the Mind: “How” Skills Non judgmentally See but don’t evaluate. Take a nonjudgmental stance. Just the facts. Focus on the “what” not the “good” or “bad”, the “terrible” or “wonderful”, the “should” or “should not”. Unglue your opinions from the facts, from the “who, what ,where and when”. Accept each moment, each […]

DBT Week 3 – Core Mindfulness

Types of Cognitice (Thinking) Distortions All or nothing thinhking – You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure. Overgeneralization – You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. Magnifying the negative – You exaggerate the importance of a negative […]

DBT Week 2 – Core Mindfulness

Emotional Mind – Thinking is impaired, thinking distortions are common, distances from others, impaired decisions Wise Mind – Ideal for relationships and decision making. It’s half way in between emotional and reasonable mind. Reasonable Mind – Impaired decisions and distances from others To differentiate a feeling from a thought” Only a feeling can fit in […]

DBT Week 1 – Core Mindfulness

There are 3 states of mind: reasonable mind, emotional mind, and wise mind. Reasonable mind is intellectual, rational and logical. It attends to facts. It is planful in behavior and focused in attention. Reasonable mind is “cool” in it’s approach to problems. Emotional mind is behavior and thinking controlled by emotions. Reasonable thinking is difficult […]

DBT – Dialectical Behavioral Therapy

DBT is a therapeutic method developed by Marsha Linehan used to treat people with Borderline Personality Disorder. It uses cognitive-behavioral techniques for emotion regulation. It teaches mindful awareness, distress tolerance and acceptance. There are 16 classes total that focus on 4 areas: mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance. Mindfulness is the foundation for […]