Thomas’s First Day of School

parenting and BPDThere isn’t much to say about the school day. He learned how to spell red, they read corduroy, they had fun.

It was the bus ride home where the action took place.

well first off his bus info
route___ couldn’t remember
Stop northtowne es 3:39
Rob and I walk down and get there in plenty of time.


Thinking the northtown es was northetown estates or whatever.

You know bus stops are by houses and all that.
By the time 4:00 passes, I’m more than a little freaked out, though I had Rob keeping me calmed with stories of his girl friend and saying TK was probably just talking shit to the driver, trying to sell a cat and the bus driver pulled over for 10 minutes as punishment.
You know, stuff to distract.(TK has the “you buy cat” part of this video memorized)

So when 4:00 hits I have him text Pat to stay near my phone in case it rang and it was the school and he missed his bus or whatever.

Next thing we know Pat’s in the car tearing past us pausing long enough to tell us to go home and that’s it and then he turns right on northtown headed towards the circle aka the wrong direction to be going to his school.
I get home and he calls and sobs out “call his school, find our son.”
I get more info out of him and find out es stands for elementary school, not estates.
Thinking back, DUH. Hind sight is a bitch.
(TK goes to an alternative school so their stops are different because they aren’t collecting from 1 neighborhood per bus.)
But Rob and I hadn’t been anywhere near the school.

Well Pat gets to that school (in his boxers because he didn’t take time to dress properly) and can’t find Thomas anywhere.

Is he out wandering the neighborhood looking for home? Thoughts like that go through parent’s minds!

I call TK’s school and get a voice mail system.
I call the bus people and I’m like I don’t know if you can help but I at least need to be sure he was definitely on that bus.

They put me on hold forever FOR-EVER A FRANTRIC PARENT ON HOLD and come back with the info Thomas was still on the bus.

Also they don’t let kindergartners off buses without them having a parent or someone there to claim them.
Makes sense, but eh… we were in hysterics.
Come to find out Thomas didn’t recognize the stop, didn’t try to get off because he knew he’d know his stop, and just enjoyed the bus ride.
12 minutes later hewas delivered securely to his waiting daddy who was wearing nothing but boxer shorts and a t-shirt.Oh and Rob?
That’s one of Pat’s two best friend’s. The other is Jesse. Rob is TK’s godfather, Jesse is Luke’s.

Feeling Poetic I Guess?

It’s 7:00 in the morning
and I’m feeling half dead
Gotta wake the munchkin
Gotta drag him outa bed
We need time for some breakfast
and a photo or twelve
Then off to school we will head
Into learning he will delve
There is no time to dally
there is no time to dilly
Waking him’s like waking dead
I don’t exaggerate, really
But it’s 7:00 in the morning
and I’m feeling half dead
Gotta wake the munchkin
Gotta drag him outa bed

Top 10 Signs Your Teen May be Experiencing Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

clipart-stop-sign-512x512-bb91There truly is a great info in this article.  I give no argument to that.  However I have one simply request:  If you are here it is a fair guess to say you have Borderline Personality Disorder.  Or maybe a loved on has it.  If that is the case, please take some time and look around this site.  This blog is filled with great information for those with BPD and those who love them.  It is my honor to have you here and I hope you                                               enjoy your stay, whether it be 5 minutes or you come back day after day.

Borderline personality disorder is a mental illness that, according to the National Institute of Mental Health, is considered a disorder of emotional regulation. Adults who suffer from borderline personality disorder or BPD, have severe issues with self-image, identity, controlling their moods and leading an everyday life with family and at work. BPD is thought to affect 2% of adults, and the majority of patients are female. Some doctors believe that patients first exhibit signs as teenagers, and because BPD is such a serious condition, it is best to identity the symptoms early. Below are the top 10 signs that your teen may be experiencing signs of borderline personality disorder, and that you should visit your doctor for an official diagnosis.

  1. They experienced abuse, neglect or abandonment as a young child. The National Institute of Mental Health reports that 40-71% of patients were sexually abused as children.
  2. Intense mood swings happen constantly. If you suspect that your child is depressed, he or she will exhibit a similar set of symptoms for weeks or months at a time. Patients with BPD suffer intense mood swings covering all kinds of emotions every few hours.
  3. They harm themselves. Self-injury is a common trait of people with BPD. They may cut themselves in an effort to deal with intense stress, anger, or just impulsive, intense feelings
  4. Drug or alcohol abuse. Sudden drug or alcohol abuse can also be a sign of developing BPD.
  5. Changes in long-term plans. Individuals with BPD may feel ambitious and optimistic at one time, making plans to attend college or start a new career, before suddenly abandoning those plans and feeling like they have no goals or prospects.
  6. They can’t stand to be alone. When a person with BPD feels like he or she has no support group, they may lash out by self-injury, drug abuse, or feeling negative and worthless.
  7. They find it difficult to maintain serious relationships. People with BPD find it difficult to feel attached to a person they love when that person is absent, making them feel guilty and worthless. Another sign of BPD is a person’s sudden switch from feeling loving and admiring of another person, to hateful or uninterested.
  8. Excessive spending. Impulsive behaviors like excessive spending can point to BPD.
  9. They suffer from another mental illness. BPD is thought to develop in conjunction with anxiety, bipolar disorder, substance abuse, or depression.
  10. They feel like no one understands them. While people with BPD feel like they need a support system on which to depend, they may also feel intensely alone and like no one understands them.

This post was contributed by Amber Hensley. She welcomes your feedback at AmberHensley1980@ yahoo.com